"…Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know."
I’m moving to another apartment a few blocks down the road. Now there are two ways to move efficiently. You can either be a “type-A, super organized, early morning riser” human being or you can be in possession of Mary Poppins’ endless magic carpet bag. Neither of these applies to me. So I was thrilled to have my organized beau lead the way.
Me: “Just tell me what to do in order and I’ll follow you every step of the way.”
Boyfriend: “That’s the worst set up to disaster I’ve ever heard.”
He was right. Frustrating my bf to the point of no return was the fact that I would almost finish every task. I’d tape up a box, tetris-pack with almost everything, and then run to the couch to watch “I Shouldn’t Be Alive” on Animal Planet.
Boyfriend: “Tory, can you get back here and finish this end table?”
Me: “I did finish! C’mon! I’m trying to watch this Australian stuck in the outback suck cactus water to save his life.”
Boyfriend: “You have not finished.”
And that’s when it hit me. It could have been come from the Buddha’s lips himself. The importance of finishing. Finish your tasks. Do not disappear in the middle when things get complicated or muddy or hard. Breathe and remind yourself gently to keep your focus and awareness all the way until your task is complete. By making it a habit to finish, you are showing yourself an extraordinary amount of self-compassion (and loving kindness towards your inexhaustibly patient boyfriend.)